| For many men, the first date is a daunting affair. | | | | don't say) are crucial to success. You should keep |
| There are so many variables to consider and one | | | | the conversation light and upbeat. Avoid topics |
| wrong step may mean there is no second date. It | | | | that could get you into trouble such as politics or |
| does not have to be like that however. First | | | | religion. Don't appear needy or complain about |
| dates should be fun and if you know how to | | | | your life, your job, or worst of all, your last |
| dress and behave, they can be. | | | | relationship. I cannot stress enough what a bad |
| One mistake many men make when going on a | | | | idea it is to engage in conversation about past |
| first date is dressing badly. First impressions count, | | | | relationships. Just don't do it - period! If you find |
| and making a bad one by showing up in ripped | | | | that your date likes to talk - LISTEN! You can't |
| jeans and a tee shirt will doom you from the | | | | mess things up if your date is doing the talking. |
| start. How you dress will depend to some degree | | | | What's more, she will think that you are a great |
| on the venue for your date (more on the venue | | | | conversationalist even though she did most of the |
| later) but you should be aware that being well | | | | work. Now I don't mean that you should sit in |
| dressed no matter what the venue will win you | | | | silence and avoid talking regardless of the |
| points. Try to avoid jeans unless the date is very | | | | situation, but if you happen to be with a talkative |
| informal. a pair of black pants will normally suffice. | | | | girl, use it to your advantage. If the girl you are |
| While a tee shirt is generally not a good idea on a | | | | with is not so talkative, rather that endure |
| first date, a polo shirt can be fine, or maybe try a | | | | awkward silences, have a list of questions you |
| casual shirt (no Hawaiian prints please!) For more | | | | can ask her at the ready (memorized please, not |
| formal events such as dinner at a high end | | | | on a notepad!) Ask her about her favorite |
| restaurant you should consider a shirt and tie, | | | | vacation or what travel destination she really |
| maybe even a jacket. Of course, it goes without | | | | wants to visit next. Ask her about any pets she |
| saying that your clothing should be clean and | | | | has, or what she did last weekend. Just |
| neatly ironed. Don't ruin it by showing up with a | | | | remember to keep the questions light hearted |
| big ugly crease down your shirt or last night | | | | and avoid questions that will elicit a simple 'yes' or |
| hotdog ketchup making an encore appearance on | | | | 'no' answer. Your goal is to get her talking after all. |
| your trousers. Shoes are also a big consideration. | | | | Furthermore, if you can make her think about |
| Most women will check out a mans footwear, so | | | | happy time such as her last vacation she will relive |
| make sure you past the test with a pair of neat, | | | | those happy feelings, and this works to your |
| clean shoes. Do not wear sneakers (unless you | | | | advantage because you want her to be in a good |
| are planning to run a marathon on your first date!) | | | | mood on your date and associate your date with |
| Make sure that you complete the picture by | | | | those same happy feelings. |
| turning up clean shaven (or with a well trimmed | | | | Keep the date shorter rather than longer. Don't |
| beard/moustache) and smelling good. Most men | | | | feel that you have to keep going until things run |
| tend to overdo the cologne or after shave. Less | | | | out of steam. It's better to end the date on a |
| is more. You want to smell nice, not like a scent | | | | high note and leave her wanting more than to let |
| factory. Use a little less than normal and you will | | | | it get to the point where she is bored and itching |
| probably hit the nail on the head. Also, pay | | | | to get away from you. By keeping the date short |
| attention to your hands and make sure they are | | | | you also limit the amount of mistakes you can |
| clean, dirt under your fingernails is a real turn off, | | | | make that might cause her to refuse a second |
| so pay close attention to this. | | | | date. Like I said before, leave the long romantic |
| The venue for your date is also very important. | | | | stuff for the second date. The first date is about |
| The standard date that springs to mind is dinner | | | | breaking the ice and seeing if you like each other. |
| and a movie, but this is not a good idea. Why | | | | Once you know that, then move on to the heavy |
| would you want to sit through a movie on a first | | | | stuff! |
| date. This is a time to get to know the other | | | | When it comes to end the date, don't try to |
| person, not sit in silence with them for two hours | | | | arrange a second date right there. Tell her how |
| then say goodbye. Dinner at a restaurant can be | | | | much you enjoyed her company and that you |
| fine (don't invite a girl to your house for dinner on | | | | would love to see her again by all means, but |
| a first date - ever), but keeping the first date | | | | leave the actual arrangements until later. Tell her |
| more informal might be to your advantage. Why | | | | you will call her the next day and actually call |
| not suggest meeting up for coffee, or a drink at | | | | when you said you would. Have a second date |
| your local watering hole? This has the advantage | | | | planned before you call and be confident, and |
| that if the date doesn't go well and the spark is | | | | whatever you do, enjoy yourself. Dating should |
| not there you are not stuck with seeing a long, | | | | be fun, not an exercise in nervous tension! |
| embarrassing date through to the end. Moreover, | | | | Finally, remember that she is a person just like |
| if you find that the two of you don't get along, | | | | you, with hopes and dreams, fears and problems |
| you have not broke the bank at a five star | | | | in her life. When you keep this in mind you will find |
| steakhouse to discover this fact. Leave the big | | | | it easier to converse with her. Getting the first |
| romantic candle light meal for the second date. | | | | date right is not hard, you just need to know the |
| Assuming that you've nailed the first impression | | | | basics of what to do and how to behave. Once |
| and got the venue just right, you are left with | | | | you have these down, you will find dating more |
| the task of actually spending time with the girl | | | | enjoyable and achieve more success. |
| you want to date. What you say (and what you | | | | |