Don't Tell Your Customers What They Can't Do - Tell Them What They Can Do

Have you ever seen these signs posted in variousAmerican Express cards are most welcome.
businesses:Unfortunately, we do not accept personal checks."
-If you BREAK IT - you BUY IT.A better way for the golf course to
-No Shirt-No Shoes-No Servicecommunicate its rules to customers would be to
-We Reserve the Right to Refuse Service tohave the signs read this way: "In order to provide
Anyone.you with a quality golfing experience we ask that
-Shoplifters will be prosecuted to the full extent ofall participants follow our rules of golf etiquette.
the law.Thanks for your cooperation! As always, it's a
-CLOSEDpleasure to serve you." "We want to keep our
-Do not lean on the glass display counter.clubhouse looking it's best for you! Please clean
-NO LOITERINGyour spikes before entering. Thanks for your
These signs are not very inviting are they? Itcooperation."
seems that the owners good intentions have"In order to keep our golf course in top condition
gone astray. A business associate and I walkedfor everyone's enjoyment, please replace all
into a Mexican-American restaurant for lunch. Ourdivots. Thanks for your cooperation!" "We want
eyes were met by a sign that read, "Banks don'tyou to look your best! Please wear your shirt and
make tacos; we don't accept checks." Next toshoes on the golf course and in the clubhouse."
the words there was a sketch of the owner withThe impressions a customer receives when he
a scowl on his face.walks into a business or organization are merely a
That first impression had already left a bad tastereflection of the owner's values and people skills
in my mouth, and we hadn't even sat down toand how he or she chooses to express them.
order our meal. What the owner of thisMost restaurants have a sign over the coat rack
restaurant does not realize is that the messagethat reads, "Not responsible for lost or stolen
he is sending out to his potential customers is notarticles." That's what the owner would like you to
positive. Actually, it's downright negative. Whatbelieve at least. What the sign is really saying is
he's saying is that he doesn't trust his customers."We don't want to be responsible for lost or
Is this the message he really wants to express tostolen articles." Legally, they really are responsible;
his customers? Probably not. But, he is expressingthey just don't want you to know it. Most
it.restaurants that I have surveyed report that
A couple of golfing partners decide to try out athey rarely have had anyone lose a coat or a
new golf course. They walk up to the clubhousepersonal belonging. So, my question is why put up
and are met with a barrage of negative signage:the negative sign? Remember, we are trying to
"Clean your spikes before enteringmake this a positive experience for the customer.
club¬house." "Shirt and shoes must be wornNegative signs do not help.
at all times." "Replace all divots." What the ownersEarl Nightingale used to tell the story of a very
of this golf course are doing is setting up apopular restaurant in Florida that is still in business
negative impression before the first ball is eventoday. The customers observe a sign over the
teed up.coat rack that reads, "Of course we are
Why do these two examples of poor service inresponsible for your belongings when you are a
America exist? Because the owners areguest in our restaurant. So, relax, enjoy yourself,
forgetting a very important truth. Charles Lamb,and have a good meal. Remember, serving you is
the great English essayist, said it best when heour number one purpose. This restaurant has
wrote these words, "Darn it, I like to be liked!"taken a very different approach to reminding its
People like to be liked. They don't want to be toldcustomers that they are important. In so many
what they can't do. They want to be informed ofwords, the owner is telling his customers that he
what they can do. They want to be made to feelcares about them and that he is responsible.
that they are welcome.After one of my talks during which I mentioned
A better way for the restaurant owner to informthis restaurant, an elderly woman came up to me
his clients of the policy of not accepting personaland asked, "Where is that restaurant located? My
checks could be to tell them what forms ofhusband and I live down there part of the year
payment he will accept. The sign could read thisand would love to visit it.
way: "Your Visa, Master Charge, Diner's Club, and