| In this highly-networked, fast-paced business | | | | TIP - To make any business networking group |
| environment with weekly business networking | | | | effective, get to know persons of interest in the |
| meetings and social media posts bombarding our | | | | group by meeting them 1-on-1; you never know, |
| senses 24/7... how can an entrepreneur | | | | you might even find a mentor. |
| effectively connect with a mentor, one that can | | | | Why lunch? |
| add substantive value to his or her business? | | | | Many times the mentor who has the skill, |
| Take them to lunch! | | | | knowledge or experience that you are hoping to |
| What is a mentor? | | | | glean is a very busy person. You must be |
| Loosely defined the modern mentor is a trusted | | | | respectful of their time. This leads to several |
| friend, counselor or teacher; usually someone with | | | | reason why lunch is a good to way meet with a |
| more knowledge, skill or experience than yourself. | | | | mentor: |
| In business this can either be someone with a lot | | | | - Food - almost everybody eats lunch, even busy |
| of general business experience, one who has | | | | people |
| simply been around the block a few times, you | | | | - Free - everybody like a free lunch |
| know... been there, done that. Or it can be | | | | - Time - lunch limits the meeting to about an hour; |
| someone with a specific set of skills / knowledge, | | | | the mentor can feel comfortable knowing that |
| like business finance or how to set up Facebook | | | | this will not be a huge time investment |
| fan page or even how to transplant a camellia | | | | - Safety - a lunch setting is public and safe |
| bush. | | | | - Equalizer - sitting across from someone at a |
| Personally, a mentor is any person who I feel is | | | | lunch table is a neutral power position as opposed |
| successful in their field that may have some | | | | to the mentor sitting behind a desk |
| helpful information to help move me along my | | | | - Distractions - a lunch setting removes both the |
| path or avoid pitfalls. A mentor that can help with | | | | mentor and mentee from work distractions |
| the latter is golden. For me, that person is a | | | | - Cost Effective - lunch for two is many times |
| 90-year-old, World War II fighter pilot and | | | | less expensive than dinner or drinks |
| business friend named Cat. He is the only person I | | | | - Psychological - you paid for lunch, they kinda |
| know that has been following and investing in the | | | | owe you |
| stock and precious metal markets for over 65 | | | | It should be noted that even if your mentor |
| years. He has owned and operated several | | | | doesn't eat lunch, they typically will take a break |
| businesses, and can still make a small fortune in | | | | during that time to workout, go for a jog or a |
| silver due to his very personal understanding of | | | | take bike ride, etc. That said, before you try to |
| long-term trends. | | | | keep up, consult with your physician before you |
| Where business networking falls short | | | | start an exercise program. |
| Business network groups seem to be | | | | How to meet a mentor? |
| synonymous with sales and sometimes a bit of | | | | I am a firm believer that you bring the teacher to |
| education, but rarely active mentoring. Taking a | | | | you when you are open and ready to learn; |
| mentor to lunch is not about networking, it is | | | | whether that teacher be a page in a book or a |
| about leveraging the knowledge that is in | | | | live person. I have already touched on business |
| someone else's brain. If you want to find a | | | | networking groups, however there are so many |
| mentor you must seek them out and with the | | | | more opportunities to meet potential mentors. |
| proper perspective, you can find mentors in the | | | | Places to find business mentors include: |
| business networking arena. | | | | Business networks |
| I sometimes hear small business owners complain | | | | - Colleagues |
| that chambers of commerce do not work. The | | | | - Senior management |
| chamber model does work if you understand how | | | | - Educational seminars (e.g. Brown Bag Lunches) |
| to take advantage of the resources provided. A | | | | - Trade association events |
| chamber of commerce is an advocate for local | | | | - Conventions / Conferences |
| businesses, however it is not in their mission to | | | | - Small Business Development Centers (SBDC) |
| feed you customers, nor do they turn you into a | | | | - Service Corps of Retired Executives (SCORE) |
| business magnet. One thing that chambers do | | | | - Business training presentations (free or paid) |
| provide is the opportunity to interact with other | | | | TIP - If you are at an presentation-type event, |
| business owners and chamber leadership. You | | | | the speaker may not be the mentor for you... it |
| must take it upon yourself to engage one-on-one; | | | | may be the person sitting right next to you. |
| both groups contain potential mentors. | | | | What if the prospective mentor says "no"? |
| In my case, in addition to being a Chamber | | | | OK, this is the normal dating fear. But to be |
| member, I joined Business Network International | | | | honest with you, I have never been turned down |
| (BNI) as well as a local business leadership group. | | | | by a potential mentor when I ask them to meet |
| With business success I outgrew BNI, however | | | | over lunch and tell them why. The "why" is |
| the main thing I took away from my experience | | | | important, they need to know that you value |
| was that the real action occurs when you meet | | | | their knowledge/experience and that you would |
| with a person outside of the weekly meetings, at | | | | like to learn from it. Many times the mentor |
| lunch, over coffee, at the park, etc. BNI calls | | | | candidate will be very honored that you value |
| these one-on-one meetings a Dance Card. I once | | | | their tenure and be happy to meet with you. |
| had a dance card meeting with a fellow business | | | | All you need to do is say, "Hey can I buy you |
| person while donating blood. Our schedules were | | | | lunch next week? I'd like to pick your brain about |
| very hard to match, so since I already had the | | | | _________ and I have been told you are the |
| appointment, we met at the blood bank and | | | | expert." And don't forget, YOU can be someone |
| donated side-by-side so we could talk during the | | | | else's mentor. Pay it forward. |
| blood letting. What can I say, I was able to | | | | "You are all learners, doers, and teachers. |
| leverage my time and donate for a good cause. | | | | |